Last week we learned the hard truth about HOA lawyers – people don’t like us. But this week, I swallowed another bitter and jagged pill – sometimes folks have good reasons not to like us.
As a modestly experienced attorney, I have witnessed, read about and commiserated over bad lawyer behavior for much of my career. I’m not talking about bad legal writing or lackluster performance at oral argument, I’m talking about when lawyers (sometimes even skillful ones) say and do things contrary to the aims of our clients and endanger the biological success of our species.
Sure, I confess that I have put my own foot in my own big fat mouth many times, but why my brothers and sisters abuse their JDs and bar cards as license to be a$$holes* is frustrating. Why we use our powers for evil rather than for the good of our clients exceeds the scope of our duties and cuts deep into deficiencies of character. A$$hole is as a$$hole does.
Consider this hypothetical with me. An HOA is in a bitter dispute with a homeowner about an architectural violation. Two seasoned attorneys are on the case. One represents the HOA and the other has taken the owner’s side. It is always the case that these two seasoned lawyers will work hard and exhaust every argument. These two lawyers will disagree about procedure, facts and the letters they exchange regarding the same. They may be short with one another on the phone or in the courtroom. Perhaps they even raise their voices in passionate defense of their clients’ legal positions. But when the HOA attorney makes fun of the homeowner lawyer’s physical disability, I think that may take things a little too far.
Outside of our little legal world, the JD and bar card offer little protection to the a$$hole attorney. In the employment context, that same attorney gets fired or gets to defend an EEOC claim. The inappropriate or rude comment to or about someone in a black robe earns you a night (or ten) in jail. Too much bad behavior and verbal sparring with your kids leads to mouthy teenagers. Harsh words intended to embarrass and intimidate your barrista might just earn you a lugie in your latte.
So there ought to be a rule for lawyers that discourages all of us zealous advocates to not cross over that line with one another or with our clients. It just so happens that ABA Model Rule 4.4(a) and most state specific rules of ethics say something about when bad lawyer behavior goes too far:
(a) In representing a client, a lawyer shall not use means that have no substantial purpose other than to embarrass, delay, or burden a third person, or use methods of obtaining evidence that violate the legal rights of such a person.
This rule and its later sub-parts are about a lot of things, but I think that at the core this rule has to be about a baseline of decorum for us attorneys (even us HOA lawyers). The rule sets up an expectation of no matter what happens with the law and the facts of the case, a lawyer can’t trade personal barbs and insults about opposing counsel or the lawyer’s client. Arguing aggressively about the opposing party’s legal position is one thing. A smirk of enjoyment while the witness squirms through a well-rehearsed, well-coached answer to a deposition question is another. But calling opposing counsel names and embarrassing her about a physical disability is stooping well below the bar. My grandfather said it and lived it best, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
I think as attorneys we need to be thoughtful of our obligations to each other, to opposing parties and to anyone else we deal with everyday. Having a kick a$$ legal argument and kicking the opposing party’s a$$ all over the courtroom doesn’t mean we get to be a$$holes. I’m just saying.
* The use of the word a$$hole is appropriate here for several reasons. But I’ll borrow a Harvard business professor’s reasons from his article about his own book, The No Asshole Rule. Professor Sutton’s article has an exhaustive list of reasons why that word and its use is so much more powerful than lesser synonyms like “jerk, bully or tyrant.” Click this link to read Sutton’s article and reference to his book.




